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Excerpt from the novel: The Perfect Solution “...I placed the most precious thing I had in the world, in your hands and you people did not take your jobs seriously."

 
Dear Parent, grandparent, teacher, childcare provider, and person who cares for the welfare of a child,

Are you aware of the mistreatment, neglect, and deaths of children which have occurred in traditional and/or home based child care centers? Some happen in  traditional as well as as home based. Are you becoming concerned? I am. Are there perhaps things we as the caregivers should be doing to eliminate daily incidents of negligence and keep horrific results like those from occurring?

Hi, I’m Ey Wade. I have been in the childcare profession for over thirty years, both in the traditional centers and as owner of a private home based center. I have witnessed and heard of a lot of things which should never have happened when a child is placed in the hands of another.

The following are questions which came to mind as I wrote the novel, The Perfect Solution and wish to share with you. Hopefully these questions will aid in improving measures in and out of the child care center.
 If you have a child in your life, download and take this survey/questionnaire as a tool on your search for the perfect solution.

Thank you for your concern and participation.

Ey Wade

What it says:

MAKING CHILDCARE CENTER'S  and  PRIVATE CARE in YOUR CITY, SAFER.

These questions pertain to everyone in the childcare, from janitorial to director. Please do not let your position in the center or as a parent(guardian) bias your answer.

You may hold the key to making your particular center better and possibly saving a life. You may hold the key to making the center the best. Please answer questions as completely as possible without using the minimum standards handbook. If you or your center has a unique way of handling things, please include your suggestions.


1) Do you love working with children? _________Why?_______________


2) How long have you worked in childcare?_____________ Do you feel the same about the profession as you did when you started?

3) Do you believe the amount you are paid reflects your duties?

4) Would you as a staff member, report negligence, abuse, or misconduct that occurs in the center? _____If no, why not?


5) If you did report within the center ad actions remained the same, would you report to higher authority?


6) Not considering your salary as a necessity, how important is your responsibility in childcare?


7) Do you feel your actions, attitude, and morals affect the children in your care?


8) Why is it important for parents to have respect for their caregiver?


9) Do you feel it is important to 'get along' with staff members?


10) Do you believe its okay to go to work and just 'mind your business'?


11) Who do you feel is responsible for overall conduct or actions which occur within the center? Why?


12) Would you take exception to someone walking around observing, and taking notes within the center?


 Why?


13) What is your idea of a ' safe' environment?


INFANT CARE


1. What are the most important pieces of information to be posted over each crib in an infant room or near the crib in a home center?


What is your suggestion?


2. What do you feel is the best way to make sure the room is safe for infant care? What is your suggestion?


3. Should each infant have a specified crib? If not, how would you distinguish who uses each crib? What is your suggestion?

4. What would you do if there were a fire in the center and you worked with infants? Your suggestion.


GENERAL CARE


5. Why do you think it is important to have a list of the children in your care posted on the wall?

 Do you think it is important to have their emergency information posted, also? What would be your suggestion?


6. How often should you count the children in your care?  Why? What is your suggestion?


7 Do you feel it is important to carry the list of children with you when you (and the children) leave the room?


FIELD TRIPS & CAR/VAN TRAVEL


8. Do you believe there should be a designated routine established in your center concerning field trips? What would you do before and after a field trip to make sure all of the children are safe and accounted for?


9. I believe cell phones are a major asset between center and van drivers; plus center and director. What do you feel? Should the center be responsible for supplying and maintaining this equipment?


10.When on a field trip, do you believe there should be a designated 'lead' teacher?


11. What do you think should be the routine for safe daily van/car transportation? How would you make sure no child is forgotten in the vehicle?


SUPERVISION


12. Do you believe teachers need short breaks throughout the day? Why?What would you suggest?


13. If you were in the farthest class from the office how would you relate your needs to the office or others?


14. Do you think it would be beneficial for all classes/ home to have intercom systems or video monitors?


15. What would be an approved reason to leave your class (inside or outside) without adult supervision?


16. How would you handle such a situation in a home center? If you are the only adult, how do you handle lunch preparation? Restroom breaks?

ARRIVAL/DISMISSAL


17. What information should a parent share when bringing child to center in morning?

18. Do you think parents should be allowed to bring strangers into the building/home when leaving or picking up their children?


19. Do you believe centers should provide a designated place for visitors to wait while clients get their child? What is your suggestion?


20. If you didn't know the person who has come to get a child, what would you do?

Remember, you are in the farthest room from the office.


21. Where should initial identification have been?


22. What is your (your center's) procedure?



23. What would you do if a child refuses to leave with the person after identification has been established?


24. The child is the last in the center, you're tired and ready to leave, but the child is hysterical and refuses to leave. What would be your response?


25. What do you feel your responsibility is when working in childcare and where does it end?


26. If a serious accident or death occurs in your childcare center, who should be responsible?


27. From children playing in the restrooms, to running in the highways, how observant or conscious are you being on a daily basis in all areas? What is your suggestion?

__________________________________________________________________


If you feel you can elaborate on this survey, please feel free to do so.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME Wade-In Publishing    email: imtheauhor@gmail.com



The Perfect Solution is a novel written with the purpose of informing parents, parents-to-be, daycare workers, owners, and others in the child care profession of the importance of diligent observation in childcare centers.

While The Perfect Solution is entertaining, it entices parents to become involved in the daily running of the center their child/children attend. The Perfect Solution captures the attention of workers and owners of centers by reminding them of the little incidents occurring in the center where they ma have been lacking in observation. This novel brings the true importance of paying attention close to home.

In the novel, other problems occurring in the building are mentioned, for example, poor staffing, high staff turn-over, physical abuse, children forgotten in vans, parks, just to name a few. The Perfect Solution tells of problems, but also gives solutions to the problems.

The Perfect Solution not only delves into the depths of the emotions and thoughts of the parents and the child, it also exposes the  motives of the abductor, the director of the center  and the teacher who mistakenly places the child in the abductor's hands.

Read excerpts from book here.

You can purchase The Perfect Solution and other books by Ey Wade at all major bookstores.

Ey Wade

 Summer will soon be over and time to place the young ones in the hands of others. Can be a frightening thing. Read this first. Who is really caring for your child? This is the title to an article I wrote in June. You can click over or read here. and then watch the video on the end. A Survey can be found here

As an over thirty year veteran of the child care profession and an author of a novel dealing with the negligence which occurs in the day care centers, I have found myself asking this question repeatedly.

As the years have passed, the question comes to the forefront of my mind more often. I have been employed in many centers in the past. Most of which I left deciding to seek employment elsewhere due to their lack of organization, cleanliness, mistreatment of the staff, poor wages and, most of all because of the slipshod attitude and occasional abuse in the care of children.
We as adults tend to worry and frustrate ourselves more with the quality of education for school-aged children when she should be focusing on the care of the infant through preschooler. These are the formative years in which life’s values are ingrained by the time a child reaches 5 years old. Sure, some habits can be changed, but the main foundation is established in the beginning.
We as the care-givers can have great influence on the children. I know this because children will pick up our habits and take them home- the way we move, the way we say things. I know this because I have heard from many parents how their child mimics me in their play and in their daily lives, so I try to be a great role model. The way we treat the children are the way they grow. It’s not just “a lack of home training.” I hear this statement often in the child care system especially when a child is misbehaving.
 Many children spend anywhere from six to 12 hours a day within one particular center, with one to two adults as their care-givers. What are we showing them? Anger, frustration or the attitude “Do what you want because I’m not your momma”? If parents only knew the truth, they would just spend more time researching the center.

 Find out why there is a high rate of staff turnover. Don’t be content with the fact your child’s particular care giver is still there. Maybe they just can’t afford to leave. Maybe they just can’t afford to leave. Things change during Summer vacations, new people come in and favorites may be gone. Parents don’t just grab a lunch menu on your way out of the center and assume that because it looks nutritious, your child must be eating right.

Teachers are to make sure the children eat their lunches, but in some centers the food is so horrible the amount the children given are so minimal that it hurts my heart to place it in front of the child. Drop in at lunch time. Give no advance warning, and you may be surprised. Just because you pay your money to a fancy, well-equipped center that all is well.

Centers established to take care of the “poorer” majority of children tend to have more equipment, more food and generally better funding. As I’m sure you know, most centers are run by the rules of minimum standards-and that is just what is there; the minimum. Centers tend to do just enough to squeeze their own standards into the rules.

Explore your child’s center. Make many unannounced visits. Appear at different times. Walk through the center. Don’t just stop at the door of your child’s class. At most centers that I have worked in (and I have worked in the best to the worst) the teachers are to have activities and lessons prepared. That’s a very frustrating job to do when there are a few or no supplies to use. Are there Kleenex? Bathroom tissue? Paper towels?

If your child is an infant, I implore you to stop in more often. See if anyone is holding your infant, playing on the floor, singing or playing music. If you always see your child or any child consistently in the bed, swings, or confined to a bouncer, it is probably how he spends his/her day. Again I ask who is caring for your child? Disturbing video



About the Author: Ey Wade considers herself to be a caged in frustrated author of thought provoking, mind bending eBooks, an occasional step-in parent, a fountain of knowledge, and ready to share. She is the author of The Perfect Solution the story of a parent’s worse nightmare. A three year old is mistakenly given to a stalker by his preschool-teacher. http://wade-inpublishing.com


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• Don't stand too far back. All new parents need a little advice and will love it when given in a non-condescending manner.
• Don't cheer at the comeuppance your child is getting from their mini. Well,maybe you can just a little. Behind the hand and not too loudly.
• Do step in occasionally and show how you handle a given situation that's getting out of hand. Not as if you are the only one who could fix the issue, but with the air of instruction and being a help mate.
• Do show that grandchild what behavior you will and will not accept. Shut it down quick.It never works if you let a child believe he/she can get away with any and everything with Lovey, grandma...whoever you are to them. That reinforces bad behavior and doesn't help the parents. You guys are all a team in rearing a beautiful, loving, giving adult.
• Most of all, pass out lots of hugs and parts on back for a job well done.

I wrote this open letter titled From The View Of A Child. You should read this.

Dear Caregiver,

• Will you remember to buckle me in my car seat or remind me to buckle my seat belt?
• Will you remember I am in the car or van and to count heads before you lock up and go about your day?
•   Will you remember that I am not a bag of groceries that you can leave sit in the car while you make a ‘quick’ trip in the store, post office, gas station?  If I don’t behave as you wish, show me the correct way. If you think it is easier to run in and leave me in the car, ask yourself if it would be easier to leave me in a coffin?

An Excerpt From, THE NATURAL PARENT-Rearing Adults HANDBOOK

"No, My Foot Will Remain on the Brakes"

Ey Wade is the parent of three adult daughters whom she homeschooled as a single parent and the author of several novels which can all be viewed here On her webpage

"Nightmares occur from time to time in many children, but they are most common in preschoolers (children aged 3-6 years) because this is the age at which normal fears develop and a child’s imagination is very active."(Webmd)

In the picture book, Not a Sound, Not a Peep, the youngest child suffers through  nightmares. This takes a toll on the entire family, as does a nightmare in any preschooler. The family in the book comes up with a few pretty good ideas to comfort the little girl, but sometimes it takes a lot of effort to help a child through the terrors. The first thing is to find out why the nightmares started. Nightmares can happen because of:

1.  Starting school.
2. Moving to a new neighborhood
3. Family divorce or remarriage.
4. Nightmares can occur from family history
5. Fever
6. Medication

What Can You Do to Help Your Child?

• Listen . Don't ridicule, belittle, or ignore the child's fear.
• Comfort your child. Reassure the child about his/her safety
• Teach coping skills. Help the child to learn to relax, make the "monster spray", read,
• Security object. Help your child become attached to a security object that he can keep in bed with him. This can help your child feel more relaxed at bedtime and throughout the night.
• Make the dark fun. Play games, give the child a flashlight, plug in a nightlight.
• Avoid incidents that cause fear. Such as TV shows, stories, games, arguments between adults.

For more ideas on helping your child through nightmares, visit The Baby Center.


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I feel as if I am on the outside looking in on everyone enjoying their lives. 

I've been trying to figure out what was bugging me, lately. I've had this feeling of being itchy, tinglie, and not my normal self. Finally found the problem.

It's me in some old lady's skin. Due to life and a lot of issues, I am now- pretty much, being taken care of by my daughters. Feels a little strange. Hopefully I'll get a little medical care, on my feet and back to the bouncy person I used to be and can get my finances in order.

What is your opinion on aging? Is it a number or does physical  problems or amount of energy determine your outlook?
Once I get of this ledge, put a little shine on my perspective, I'll be back to being twenty-one again.

Child Care Providers-Are You In The Right Profession?

This is a question you should ask yourself daily. If you have even a small doubt or wish to leave, THEN YOU SHOULD GET OUT. Find a door and step away, because your small mistakes can mean the death of a child.

• If you are in the field because you think its an easy way to make money YOU SHOULD GET OUT.
• If you are in the field because you think it will be fun to play with the children YOU SHOULD GET OUT.
• There is no place in the child care system for those who just want to gossip, sit on the phone, watch TV or read a book. PAY ATTENTION

 Not a thing puzzling about this. If you have a doubt, getting tired or find no fulfillment...YOU SHOULD GET OUT.
School is about to start again and more children will be placed in the hands of a few incompetent people. If you are one of those YOU SHOULD GET OUT, NOW!