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Excerpt from the novel: The Perfect Solution “...I placed the most precious thing I had in the world, in your hands and you people did not take your jobs seriously."
Dear Parent, grandparent, teacher, childcare provider, and person who cares for the welfare of a child,
Are you aware of the mistreatment, neglect, and deaths of children which have occurred in traditional and/or home based child care centers? Some happen in traditional as well as as home based. Are you becoming concerned? I am. Are there perhaps things we as the caregivers should be doing to eliminate daily incidents of negligence and keep horrific results like those from occurring?
Hi, I’m Ey Wade. I have been in the childcare profession for over thirty years, both in the traditional centers and as owner of a private home based center. I have witnessed and heard of a lot of things which should never have happened when a child is placed in the hands of another.
The following are questions which came to mind as I wrote the novel, The Perfect Solution and wish to share with you. Hopefully these questions will aid in improving measures in and out of the child care center.
If you have a child in your life, download and take this survey/questionnaire as a tool on your search for the perfect solution.
Thank you for your concern and participation.
Ey Wade
What it says:
MAKING CHILDCARE CENTER'S and PRIVATE CARE in YOUR CITY, SAFER.
These questions pertain to everyone in the childcare, from janitorial to director. Please do not let your position in the center or as a parent(guardian) bias your answer.
You may hold the key to making your particular center better and possibly saving a life. You may hold the key to making the center the best. Please answer questions as completely as possible without using the minimum standards handbook. If you or your center has a unique way of handling things, please include your suggestions.
1) Do you love working with children? _________Why?_______________
2) How long have you worked in childcare?_____________ Do you feel the same about the profession as you did when you started?
3) Do you believe the amount you are paid reflects your duties?
4) Would you as a staff member, report negligence, abuse, or misconduct that occurs in the center? _____If no, why not?
5) If you did report within the center ad actions remained the same, would you report to higher authority?
6) Not considering your salary as a necessity, how important is your responsibility in childcare?
7) Do you feel your actions, attitude, and morals affect the children in your care?
8) Why is it important for parents to have respect for their caregiver?
9) Do you feel it is important to 'get along' with staff members?
10) Do you believe its okay to go to work and just 'mind your business'?
11) Who do you feel is responsible for overall conduct or actions which occur within the center? Why?
12) Would you take exception to someone walking around observing, and taking notes within the center?
Why?
13) What is your idea of a ' safe' environment?
INFANT CARE
1. What are the most important pieces of information to be posted over each crib in an infant room or near the crib in a home center?
What is your suggestion?
2. What do you feel is the best way to make sure the room is safe for infant care? What is your suggestion?
3. Should each infant have a specified crib? If not, how would you distinguish who uses each crib? What is your suggestion?
4. What would you do if there were a fire in the center and you worked with infants? Your suggestion.
GENERAL CARE
5. Why do you think it is important to have a list of the children in your care posted on the wall?
Do you think it is important to have their emergency information posted, also? What would be your suggestion?
6. How often should you count the children in your care? Why? What is your suggestion?
7 Do you feel it is important to carry the list of children with you when you (and the children) leave the room?
FIELD TRIPS & CAR/VAN TRAVEL
8. Do you believe there should be a designated routine established in your center concerning field trips? What would you do before and after a field trip to make sure all of the children are safe and accounted for?
9. I believe cell phones are a major asset between center and van drivers; plus center and director. What do you feel? Should the center be responsible for supplying and maintaining this equipment?
10.When on a field trip, do you believe there should be a designated 'lead' teacher?
11. What do you think should be the routine for safe daily van/car transportation? How would you make sure no child is forgotten in the vehicle?
SUPERVISION
12. Do you believe teachers need short breaks throughout the day? Why?What would you suggest?
13. If you were in the farthest class from the office how would you relate your needs to the office or others?
14. Do you think it would be beneficial for all classes/ home to have intercom systems or video monitors?
15. What would be an approved reason to leave your class (inside or outside) without adult supervision?
16. How would you handle such a situation in a home center? If you are the only adult, how do you handle lunch preparation? Restroom breaks?
ARRIVAL/DISMISSAL
17. What information should a parent share when bringing child to center in morning?
18. Do you think parents should be allowed to bring strangers into the building/home when leaving or picking up their children?
19. Do you believe centers should provide a designated place for visitors to wait while clients get their child? What is your suggestion?
20. If you didn't know the person who has come to get a child, what would you do?
Remember, you are in the farthest room from the office.
21. Where should initial identification have been?
22. What is your (your center's) procedure?
23. What would you do if a child refuses to leave with the person after identification has been established?
24. The child is the last in the center, you're tired and ready to leave, but the child is hysterical and refuses to leave. What would be your response?
25. What do you feel your responsibility is when working in childcare and where does it end?
26. If a serious accident or death occurs in your childcare center, who should be responsible?
27. From children playing in the restrooms, to running in the highways, how observant or conscious are you being on a daily basis in all areas? What is your suggestion?
__________________________________________________________________
If you feel you can elaborate on this survey, please feel free to do so.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME Wade-In Publishing email: imtheauhor@gmail.com
The Perfect Solution is a novel written with the purpose of informing parents, parents-to-be, daycare workers, owners, and others in the child care profession of the importance of diligent observation in childcare centers.
While The Perfect Solution is entertaining, it entices parents to become involved in the daily running of the center their child/children attend. The Perfect Solution captures the attention of workers and owners of centers by reminding them of the little incidents occurring in the center where they ma have been lacking in observation. This novel brings the true importance of paying attention close to home.
In the novel, other problems occurring in the building are mentioned, for example, poor staffing, high staff turn-over, physical abuse, children forgotten in vans, parks, just to name a few. The Perfect Solution tells of problems, but also gives solutions to the problems.
The Perfect Solution not only delves into the depths of the emotions and thoughts of the parents and the child, it also exposes the motives of the abductor, the director of the center and the teacher who mistakenly places the child in the abductor's hands.
Read excerpts from book here.
You can purchase The Perfect Solution and other books by Ey Wade at all major bookstores.
Ey Wade
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Dear Parent, grandparent, teacher, childcare provider, and person who cares for the welfare of a child,
Are you aware of the mistreatment, neglect, and deaths of children which have occurred in traditional and/or home based child care centers? Some happen in traditional as well as as home based. Are you becoming concerned? I am. Are there perhaps things we as the caregivers should be doing to eliminate daily incidents of negligence and keep horrific results like those from occurring?
Hi, I’m Ey Wade. I have been in the childcare profession for over thirty years, both in the traditional centers and as owner of a private home based center. I have witnessed and heard of a lot of things which should never have happened when a child is placed in the hands of another.
The following are questions which came to mind as I wrote the novel, The Perfect Solution and wish to share with you. Hopefully these questions will aid in improving measures in and out of the child care center.
If you have a child in your life, download and take this survey/questionnaire as a tool on your search for the perfect solution.
Thank you for your concern and participation.
Ey Wade
What it says:
MAKING CHILDCARE CENTER'S and PRIVATE CARE in YOUR CITY, SAFER.
These questions pertain to everyone in the childcare, from janitorial to director. Please do not let your position in the center or as a parent(guardian) bias your answer.
You may hold the key to making your particular center better and possibly saving a life. You may hold the key to making the center the best. Please answer questions as completely as possible without using the minimum standards handbook. If you or your center has a unique way of handling things, please include your suggestions.
1) Do you love working with children? _________Why?_______________
2) How long have you worked in childcare?_____________ Do you feel the same about the profession as you did when you started?
3) Do you believe the amount you are paid reflects your duties?
4) Would you as a staff member, report negligence, abuse, or misconduct that occurs in the center? _____If no, why not?
5) If you did report within the center ad actions remained the same, would you report to higher authority?
6) Not considering your salary as a necessity, how important is your responsibility in childcare?
7) Do you feel your actions, attitude, and morals affect the children in your care?
8) Why is it important for parents to have respect for their caregiver?
9) Do you feel it is important to 'get along' with staff members?
10) Do you believe its okay to go to work and just 'mind your business'?
11) Who do you feel is responsible for overall conduct or actions which occur within the center? Why?
12) Would you take exception to someone walking around observing, and taking notes within the center?
Why?
13) What is your idea of a ' safe' environment?
INFANT CARE
1. What are the most important pieces of information to be posted over each crib in an infant room or near the crib in a home center?
What is your suggestion?
2. What do you feel is the best way to make sure the room is safe for infant care? What is your suggestion?
3. Should each infant have a specified crib? If not, how would you distinguish who uses each crib? What is your suggestion?
4. What would you do if there were a fire in the center and you worked with infants? Your suggestion.
GENERAL CARE
5. Why do you think it is important to have a list of the children in your care posted on the wall?
Do you think it is important to have their emergency information posted, also? What would be your suggestion?
6. How often should you count the children in your care? Why? What is your suggestion?
7 Do you feel it is important to carry the list of children with you when you (and the children) leave the room?
FIELD TRIPS & CAR/VAN TRAVEL
8. Do you believe there should be a designated routine established in your center concerning field trips? What would you do before and after a field trip to make sure all of the children are safe and accounted for?
9. I believe cell phones are a major asset between center and van drivers; plus center and director. What do you feel? Should the center be responsible for supplying and maintaining this equipment?
10.When on a field trip, do you believe there should be a designated 'lead' teacher?
11. What do you think should be the routine for safe daily van/car transportation? How would you make sure no child is forgotten in the vehicle?
SUPERVISION
12. Do you believe teachers need short breaks throughout the day? Why?What would you suggest?
13. If you were in the farthest class from the office how would you relate your needs to the office or others?
14. Do you think it would be beneficial for all classes/ home to have intercom systems or video monitors?
15. What would be an approved reason to leave your class (inside or outside) without adult supervision?
16. How would you handle such a situation in a home center? If you are the only adult, how do you handle lunch preparation? Restroom breaks?
ARRIVAL/DISMISSAL
17. What information should a parent share when bringing child to center in morning?
18. Do you think parents should be allowed to bring strangers into the building/home when leaving or picking up their children?
19. Do you believe centers should provide a designated place for visitors to wait while clients get their child? What is your suggestion?
20. If you didn't know the person who has come to get a child, what would you do?
Remember, you are in the farthest room from the office.
21. Where should initial identification have been?
22. What is your (your center's) procedure?
23. What would you do if a child refuses to leave with the person after identification has been established?
24. The child is the last in the center, you're tired and ready to leave, but the child is hysterical and refuses to leave. What would be your response?
25. What do you feel your responsibility is when working in childcare and where does it end?
26. If a serious accident or death occurs in your childcare center, who should be responsible?
27. From children playing in the restrooms, to running in the highways, how observant or conscious are you being on a daily basis in all areas? What is your suggestion?
__________________________________________________________________
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME Wade-In Publishing email: imtheauhor@gmail.com
The Perfect Solution is a novel written with the purpose of informing parents, parents-to-be, daycare workers, owners, and others in the child care profession of the importance of diligent observation in childcare centers.
While The Perfect Solution is entertaining, it entices parents to become involved in the daily running of the center their child/children attend. The Perfect Solution captures the attention of workers and owners of centers by reminding them of the little incidents occurring in the center where they ma have been lacking in observation. This novel brings the true importance of paying attention close to home. In the novel, other problems occurring in the building are mentioned, for example, poor staffing, high staff turn-over, physical abuse, children forgotten in vans, parks, just to name a few. The Perfect Solution tells of problems, but also gives solutions to the problems.
The Perfect Solution not only delves into the depths of the emotions and thoughts of the parents and the child, it also exposes the motives of the abductor, the director of the center and the teacher who mistakenly places the child in the abductor's hands.
Read excerpts from book here.
You can purchase The Perfect Solution and other books by Ey Wade at all major bookstores.
Ey Wade
You should know. It won't make your child conceited if you tell them how wonderful they are.
Applaud them for their accomplishments, even if it looks minute in your eyes. Encourage them to try bigger and better things. Don't compare their skills to someone else, whether better or worse.
You should also know, it won't destroy your child to know where their weakness lies.
Encourage them to repeat what they believe is a failure, practice eventually builds the skill or let's the child know the activity is not their forte. And that's okay.
Bestowing Praise & Speaking Encouragement on the Child in Your Life #parenting #homeschooling
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You should know. It won't make your child conceited if you tell them how wonderful they are.Applaud them for their accomplishments, even if it looks minute in your eyes. Encourage them to try bigger and better things. Don't compare their skills to someone else, whether better or worse.
You should also know, it won't destroy your child to know where their weakness lies.
Encourage them to repeat what they believe is a failure, practice eventually builds the skill or let's the child know the activity is not their forte. And that's okay.
Encourage them to repeat what they believe is a failure, practice eventually builds the skill or let's the child know the activity is not their forte. And that's okay.
I wrote this open letter titled From The View Of A Child. You should read this.
Dear Caregiver,
Spring is here and Summer won't be far behind and I know that you will be planning outdoor activities that will take us away from the childcare center or home.
I have been waiting in trepidation for these events throughout the entire cold, wet winter. I have heard many of my friends died because of a lack in observation in childcare center this past summer.
Some even died because their parents forgot them in the car! In the hot car! I don’t want to be like them. I am wondering if you will be aware of me.
- Will you remember to buckle me in my car seat or remind me to buckle my seat belt?
- Will you remember I am in the car or van and to count heads before you lock up and go about your day?
- Will you remember that I am not a bag of groceries that you can leave sit in the car while you make a ‘quick’ trip in the store, post office, gas station? If I don’t behave as you wish, show me the correct way. If you think it is easier to run in and leave me in the car, ask yourself if it would be easier to leave me in a coffin?
I don’t want to be like my friends so I am asking you to make sure the air conditioner is working. You do know children get hot faster and dehydrate quicker than adults, don't you? Check the vans and cars before you lock them to make sure I am out.
Don’t leave me for even a minute. If you don’t have my hand or haven’t kissed my face, you have forgotten me.
Parents I wrote an article CHECK YOUR DAYCARE asking if you knew who was caring for your child, do you know yet?
About the Author: Ey Wade considers herself to be a caged in frustrated author of thought provoking, mind bending eBooks, an occasional step-in parent, a fountain of knowledge, and ready to share. She is the author of The Perfect Solution the story of a parent’s worse nightmare. A three year old is mistakenly given to a stalker by his preschool-teacher.
Saving Children-Check Your Backseat. Time for a Repost #parenting #homeschooling #heat #thingslegendsaremadeof
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I wrote this open letter titled From The View Of A Child. You should read this.
Dear Caregiver,
Spring is here and Summer won't be far behind and I know that you will be planning outdoor activities that will take us away from the childcare center or home. I have been waiting in trepidation for these events throughout the entire cold, wet winter. I have heard many of my friends died because of a lack in observation in childcare center this past summer.
Some even died because their parents forgot them in the car! In the hot car! I don’t want to be like them. I am wondering if you will be aware of me.
- Will you remember to buckle me in my car seat or remind me to buckle my seat belt?
- Will you remember I am in the car or van and to count heads before you lock up and go about your day?
- Will you remember that I am not a bag of groceries that you can leave sit in the car while you make a ‘quick’ trip in the store, post office, gas station? If I don’t behave as you wish, show me the correct way. If you think it is easier to run in and leave me in the car, ask yourself if it would be easier to leave me in a coffin?
I don’t want to be like my friends so I am asking you to make sure the air conditioner is working. You do know children get hot faster and dehydrate quicker than adults, don't you? Check the vans and cars before you lock them to make sure I am out.
Don’t leave me for even a minute. If you don’t have my hand or haven’t kissed my face, you have forgotten me.
Parents I wrote an article CHECK YOUR DAYCARE asking if you knew who was caring for your child, do you know yet?
About the Author: Ey Wade considers herself to be a caged in frustrated author of thought provoking, mind bending eBooks, an occasional step-in parent, a fountain of knowledge, and ready to share. She is the author of The Perfect Solution the story of a parent’s worse nightmare. A three year old is mistakenly given to a stalker by his preschool-teacher.
An Excerpt From, THE NATURAL PARENT-Rearing Adults HANDBOOK
"No, My Foot Will Remain on the Brakes"
Yeah, I'm sounding old," but I have to say, What is wrong with the new parents of TODAY?
What is this mess about reasoning and talking, and teaching your child how to make their own decisions? They're infants, toddlers, preschoolers, for God's sake. Are you out of your freaking mind? I'm going to have to come right out and tell you something your mom should have told you, "You are doing it wrong." First of all you are not raising your child to grow up and be a child, teach them so they can be productive adults.
What is it they used to say? The mind is a terrible think to waste? Hell freaking yeah, it is. The mind is a lethal weapon, a force larger than a 2000 pound automobile, a mass of confusion so real, the Bermuda triangle has nothing on how lost the wrong actions can make you, and yet these parents hand over the control, as if they are passing out popsicles in the desert.
All I can say is, you're making a mess of things, stop. A young child has as much capability to reason as they have ability to stop that popsicle from melting in the heat.
Before You give that control of reason to a child, you need, and I stress this with loud and great emphasis, you need to establish a foundation of authority.
You buckle the car seat, who cares if they can do it themselves, it's a safety issue. Besides, who has time to argue with a preschooler who refuses to buckle and you're in a rush?
You have last say in choice of the clothes to wear. They can make a suggestion, but you lay the red carpet. Again, who has time to argue with a preschooler who decides she wants to dress in shorts in 40% weather?
You decide what's for breakfast, lunch, dinner...health reasons. You can't just shrug and say, she decided she didn't want to eat.
For the sake of tiny baby Jesus in a manger, quit giving the child the last decision, let him/her make suggestions, but the final choice has to be yours or you are writing a plan for war and disaster. Honestly, if you do it with respect, the child will learn the way to make right, healthy, safe choices and not spur of the moment decisions.
You need to make sure that child realizes, he/she may be behind the wheel, but you have your foot on the brakes, you own the key and they go nowhere without you providing the fuel or otherwise, when that child hits four or five years old, you will be hit with the tantrums and bad behavior as uncontrollable as a monsoon in a broom closet. The damage will be damn near irreparable.
You'll find yourself struggling through your own mental torture of wanting to be the sweet, complacent , hands off parent, the hell yeah- I'm the boss of you and this house parent, while fighting not to be physically abusive because you can't get your young child to calmly agree with anything you suggest- especially while standing in the middle of a supermarket aisle or at the corner of the street, waiting to walk across traffic.
And if you don't fix the monster you've created, the rest of your life will be one argument after another, year after year, after year- until they grow up and have children of their own.
So, ask yourself, while you're looking in the face of that newly born person, what foundation will I build?
Ey Wade is the parent of three adult daughters whom she homeschooled as a single parent and the author of several novels which can all be viewed here On her webpage
*You Let Your Kid Do What?* #parenting #homeschooling ##thingslegendsaremadeof
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An Excerpt From, THE NATURAL PARENT-Rearing Adults HANDBOOK
"No, My Foot Will Remain on the Brakes"
What is this mess about reasoning and talking, and teaching your child how to make their own decisions? They're infants, toddlers, preschoolers, for God's sake. Are you out of your freaking mind? I'm going to have to come right out and tell you something your mom should have told you, "You are doing it wrong." First of all you are not raising your child to grow up and be a child, teach them so they can be productive adults.
What is it they used to say? The mind is a terrible think to waste? Hell freaking yeah, it is. The mind is a lethal weapon, a force larger than a 2000 pound automobile, a mass of confusion so real, the Bermuda triangle has nothing on how lost the wrong actions can make you, and yet these parents hand over the control, as if they are passing out popsicles in the desert.
All I can say is, you're making a mess of things, stop. A young child has as much capability to reason as they have ability to stop that popsicle from melting in the heat.
All I can say is, you're making a mess of things, stop. A young child has as much capability to reason as they have ability to stop that popsicle from melting in the heat.
Before You give that control of reason to a child, you need, and I stress this with loud and great emphasis, you need to establish a foundation of authority.
You buckle the car seat, who cares if they can do it themselves, it's a safety issue. Besides, who has time to argue with a preschooler who refuses to buckle and you're in a rush?
You buckle the car seat, who cares if they can do it themselves, it's a safety issue. Besides, who has time to argue with a preschooler who refuses to buckle and you're in a rush?
You have last say in choice of the clothes to wear. They can make a suggestion, but you lay the red carpet. Again, who has time to argue with a preschooler who decides she wants to dress in shorts in 40% weather?
You decide what's for breakfast, lunch, dinner...health reasons. You can't just shrug and say, she decided she didn't want to eat.
For the sake of tiny baby Jesus in a manger, quit giving the child the last decision, let him/her make suggestions, but the final choice has to be yours or you are writing a plan for war and disaster. Honestly, if you do it with respect, the child will learn the way to make right, healthy, safe choices and not spur of the moment decisions.
You need to make sure that child realizes, he/she may be behind the wheel, but you have your foot on the brakes, you own the key and they go nowhere without you providing the fuel or otherwise, when that child hits four or five years old, you will be hit with the tantrums and bad behavior as uncontrollable as a monsoon in a broom closet. The damage will be damn near irreparable.
You'll find yourself struggling through your own mental torture of wanting to be the sweet, complacent , hands off parent, the hell yeah- I'm the boss of you and this house parent, while fighting not to be physically abusive because you can't get your young child to calmly agree with anything you suggest- especially while standing in the middle of a supermarket aisle or at the corner of the street, waiting to walk across traffic.
And if you don't fix the monster you've created, the rest of your life will be one argument after another, year after year, after year- until they grow up and have children of their own.
So, ask yourself, while you're looking in the face of that newly born person, what foundation will I build?
Aww, my baby is sick. Doesn't help that the 'kid' (the one in the white sweater)is very deep in her twenties and able to care for herself. When I see her going through the same thing this time of year after 24 years, it still bothers me.
It began when she was four years old. One morning she woke saying her stomach burned and by the end of the day she had vomited and cried so much I brought her to the emergency room where they diagnosed a virus. Two days later, after no relief, we were in the doctor's office. Same diagnosis. Poor little thing wouldn't eat or drink anything. For the remainder of the week and into the middle of the next it was the same, until she was hospitalized. All kinds of tests were done during her week long stay to the conclusion they could find nothing. She was transferred to a larger hospital, Texas Children's. After a fearful misdiagnosis from a possible case of aids, which she might have acquired through blood transfusions as a preemie, we again got a "we don't know what the problem is", she mysteriously got better and we were sent home.
This went on for years. When my daughter would become ill, you couldn't get her to eat or drink anything and it became so traumatizing. The doctor and I communicated well until she said maybe the comment that maybe it was 'me' causing the problem. Really ticked me off and we would go back and forth on whether or not to run different tests. We gave up Koolaid, Ketchup, tomato sauce. Anything I could think of that would irritate the stomach lining. I began keeping a diary and it finally clicked. It had to be allergies. She always became ill during the months of October through December after a small cold. When I told the doctor she disagreed, again we went the rounds. Eventually, I said forget it and started giving her over the counter allergy medication. That first year was glorious. None of the weeks of painful crying and each year after became better and better because we would start the treatment in advance of the allergy attack. I knew in my heart this was the thing to do and still believe it. You have to fight for the medical treatment your child needs. No matter how big or small.
You Have to Stand Up for Your Child's Health
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It began when she was four years old. One morning she woke saying her stomach burned and by the end of the day she had vomited and cried so much I brought her to the emergency room where they diagnosed a virus. Two days later, after no relief, we were in the doctor's office. Same diagnosis. Poor little thing wouldn't eat or drink anything. For the remainder of the week and into the middle of the next it was the same, until she was hospitalized. All kinds of tests were done during her week long stay to the conclusion they could find nothing. She was transferred to a larger hospital, Texas Children's. After a fearful misdiagnosis from a possible case of aids, which she might have acquired through blood transfusions as a preemie, we again got a "we don't know what the problem is", she mysteriously got better and we were sent home.
This went on for years. When my daughter would become ill, you couldn't get her to eat or drink anything and it became so traumatizing. The doctor and I communicated well until she said maybe the comment that maybe it was 'me' causing the problem. Really ticked me off and we would go back and forth on whether or not to run different tests. We gave up Koolaid, Ketchup, tomato sauce. Anything I could think of that would irritate the stomach lining. I began keeping a diary and it finally clicked. It had to be allergies. She always became ill during the months of October through December after a small cold. When I told the doctor she disagreed, again we went the rounds. Eventually, I said forget it and started giving her over the counter allergy medication. That first year was glorious. None of the weeks of painful crying and each year after became better and better because we would start the treatment in advance of the allergy attack. I knew in my heart this was the thing to do and still believe it. You have to fight for the medical treatment your child needs. No matter how big or small.
Four months ago I became an official grandmother, well "Lovey" to Jett Parker Ellington Wade. Not being called grandma has nothing to do with vanity, but I only remember my grandma when hear the title. My mom is 'Granny' and my sister's grandchildren call her 'grandmother'. I want to be that little fellow's lovey. The one he runs to when his mother is just not being tied around his finger.
Isn't it hilarious how our roles in life shift and change under our feet and we never really realize we are moving and reforming? It took a bit of time to inhale the fact I wasn't my mom's little girl anymore and was responsible for the lives of other humans.I only just accepted the fact I am no longer the mommy, but the mother. I'll be 53 in a couple of months and I just can't phantom that. I used to think that number meant you were old. I wonder if my mom felt that way. It's not the case of being an empty nester (kinda dumb term because the nest is never really empty. Fragments remain, ties are still there and the children always return, yeah).
One thing about being Lovey is the definite fact I have been given a gift. A gift of renewal and second chances. Whatever I couldn't do with my own I can rectify in a grandchild. No longer am I the harassed hurried single parent trying to rear and home-school three daughters. I am the calm collected person who saves him from (very)early morning boredom in the crib. I am the one who rushes hm down the stairs and out the door to catch the first morning breezes and sun burst through the clouds. I see the same joy (and of course adoration)in his eyes when he looks at me that the girls had. In him manly skills will be taught. Already he has his chores. He walks with me as we (I) feed the dog,put out trash, water plants, load the dishwasher. His babbling shows the joy he feels at doing housework. Wait a minute....maybe that's just me feeling the joy in being Lovey. Isn't he beautiful?
Loving The Changes
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Four months ago I became an official grandmother, well "Lovey" to Jett Parker Ellington Wade. Not being called grandma has nothing to do with vanity, but I only remember my grandma when hear the title. My mom is 'Granny' and my sister's grandchildren call her 'grandmother'. I want to be that little fellow's lovey. The one he runs to when his mother is just not being tied around his finger.
Isn't it hilarious how our roles in life shift and change under our feet and we never really realize we are moving and reforming? It took a bit of time to inhale the fact I wasn't my mom's little girl anymore and was responsible for the lives of other humans.I only just accepted the fact I am no longer the mommy, but the mother. I'll be 53 in a couple of months and I just can't phantom that. I used to think that number meant you were old. I wonder if my mom felt that way. It's not the case of being an empty nester (kinda dumb term because the nest is never really empty. Fragments remain, ties are still there and the children always return, yeah).
One thing about being Lovey is the definite fact I have been given a gift. A gift of renewal and second chances. Whatever I couldn't do with my own I can rectify in a grandchild. No longer am I the harassed hurried single parent trying to rear and home-school three daughters. I am the calm collected person who saves him from (very)early morning boredom in the crib. I am the one who rushes hm down the stairs and out the door to catch the first morning breezes and sun burst through the clouds. I see the same joy (and of course adoration)in his eyes when he looks at me that the girls had. In him manly skills will be taught. Already he has his chores. He walks with me as we (I) feed the dog,put out trash, water plants, load the dishwasher. His babbling shows the joy he feels at doing housework. Wait a minute....maybe that's just me feeling the joy in being Lovey. Isn't he beautiful?
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